Archive for April, 2012

‘I think my biggest challenge in college has been overcoming myself’


2012
04.29

Go figure, my theory prevails again another year … science majors do not get to experience “dead week.”  This past week I had five, count them, five exams in one form or another. They weren’t finals.  Now I have finals. And needless to say, I have been a complete mess.

I had my semester mental breakdown on Friday.  I called my mom crying because I did not think I was going to meet the exceptionally high standards that I set for myself again.  After some tears, tension, anger and everything else that accompanies that much stress, I got to thinking about my biggest challenge.

I think my biggest challenge in college has been overcoming myself.  This is actually something I am still working on.  Anyway, what I mean is that I set these unattainable high standards for myself and when I don’t reach them, I beat myself up.  I completely tear myself down and feel dumb, which I think is one of the worst feelings, ever.

I basically expect perfection from myself, which is quite silly since we live in such a non-perfect world. I often tell myself that I set these standards because I am going into a competitive field (dentistry) and I do not want anything to stand in my way of going to the dental school of my choosing and having my own business.  But the reality is that creating standards that ultimately result in me beating myself down will not help me reach those goals.

My mom told me that one mistake won’t take away what I want.  My professor told me that I should not focus on the grades but rather learning the material.  My friend told me , “All you can do is the best you can do.” Once you’ve done that, you rest easy knowing you gave it your all.” My brother told me that stickers are great for cheering up (and that things will all work out in the end).  And my sister told me that one mistake shouldn’t be the end all of achieving what I want.

I think they are all right.   I am not quite sure how I can stop wanting perfection because I think we should always aim for the best.  I think what I need to learn is to accept mistakes.  I have created this eight-year plan to achieve my goals, but that doesn’t mean that everything is set in stone.

So, I guess it is all an uphill battle from here.  I will probably still have an occasional breakdown, and that’s OK.  But maybe I can start learning that it’s OK to make a mistake here and there.  What is even more admirable than working hard to reach a goal is working hard to reach a goal, making a mistake that knocks you down and leaping back up and running to finish line.

I will end with this quote, “Life is too short to wake up with regrets.  So, love the people who treat you right and forget about the ones who don’t.  And believe that everything happens for a reason…and if you get the change- take it.  If it changes your life — let it.  Nobody said it would be easy, they just promised that it would be worth it.”

Dig deep and find the motivation to study for finals


2012
04.26

It’s that time of the year again: end of the semester.  We have one day left of classes, then one week of finals.  I’m super excited about the end of the school year, but have to remain focused and motivated.  This is the hardest part about the last two-three weeks of school.

The weather begins to change and the sun comes out.  Your motivation to stay inside and do homework becomes increasingly thin.  The sleep deprivation from the semester has finally caught up.  The amount of homework and last-minute projects begin to pile up.  This is when you know it is the end of the year.

Even though it isn’t finals week yet, I just wanted to give everyone a few tips about how finals week looks to me.  I always say it is the best worst week of the semester.  Finals.  They are generally a large portion of your final grade.  The final is longer than your general exams.  So, more studying needs to be done in order to secure that final grade.

Since there are no regular classes, you have more free time to study right? Wrong!  You would think that since you are not in class you would spend all this time studying, but that isn’t true.  For me, I basically want to sleep, watch movies and sleep.  The last thing on my mind is studying, but I know I have to. It’s a tough situation where your brain is telling you to do different things:  study for finals, quit and relax.

Oftentimes, I don’t study as much as I should during finals week because my brain is in shutdown mode.  It knows that summer is quickly approaching and that I will pass the class even if I get a zero on my final (not with a good grade though!).

My advice to you is this:

  • Tell your brain that the semester isn’t over until your last final
  • Try to motivate yourself with extrinsic things like you study for two hours, you get to watch 30 minutes of TV,
  • Turn off all electronic devices during finals week
  • Put your cell phones on silent when you study; change Facebook passwords for the week
  • Study a for a few days instead of cramming (if you cram during finals, it normally ends bad on your final)
  • Focus on one thing at a time and try not to get overwhelmed by your to-do list
  • Enjoy your last week with your BGSU friends
  • For a break in your day, go eat with friends

Good luck to everyone as they finish  up the last few weeks of school!

Until Next Time BG,

Mike

3 things I wish I had known before coming to college


2012
04.22

You’ve heard of “tunnel vision,” right?  I think I am prone to tunnel vision when I’ve been driving too long.  I’ll pass a highway patrol officer while going just a little bit too fast or nearly miss my exit, and it will suddenly occur to me that I have been staring at the weird vanity plate on the car in front of me for 30 minutes and missing everything else in my surroundings.  Here is a term you haven’t heard of: “senior vision.”

As a student in high school, I had a narrow view of college that I assembled from college visits, stories from friends and advice from counselors and teachers.  I stole a few ideas about college life from television shows like “Gilmore Girls,” too.  I had senior vision.

I arrived at Bowling Green last August with all of my myths and misconceptions and realized quickly how wrong I had been.  Here three things I wish I had known before coming to college.  If you’re about to make the critical transition from high school to college, I hope you find these useful.  If you’re already here, you probably had a touch of senior vision in high school, too, so you can have a good laugh at yourself (and me).  Oh, if only I’d known…

You are responsible for you.  In high school, many of my teachers required students to keep updated assignment logs.  They were collected and checked for a grade.  A few also posted homework assignments online.  If I forgot to turn in an assignment, I was reminded.  If I missed a day, teachers would review what I had missed with me.  Some teachers even posted current grades on the wall and asked students to check and initial them.  When interim reports came out, parents had to sign them.  My teachers always made sure that I was on track and informed.  This all changed when I got to college.  In college, instructors will not force students to write down their assignments in their task managers or pick up the handouts they missed when they were sick — not because they don’t care, but because they expect students to behave like adults.  As a student, it is my responsibility to take notes, record assignments, check grades on a system called Blackboard and communicate with my instructors when I have a problem.  If I have to miss a class, it is my responsibility to get the notes.  If I am not sure what it is coming up in a class, I need to review the syllabus.  Succeeding in a college class requires a lot of self-motivation.

Time-management is a skill.  During my senior year, I took a fun college-prep class that was all about college survival skills.  Mainly, I took it because my favorite business teacher was offering it, but I also hoped to learn a thing or two about how to succeed in college.  I did not retain much from the class, apart from an efficient way to take notes.  My teacher discussed “time management skills” pretty regularly, but I never gave it much attention.  Time management wasn’t a big issue for me in high school.  I had plenty of time for Key Club, the Future Educators Association and a part-time job.  I did my homework during study hall.  Easy enough.  About three weeks into college, I realized that I should have paid better attention to Ms. Tebay’s advice.  Time management is critical in college.  It really is a skill — one that I still haven’t perfected, although I think I’ve gotten a little better at it.  College classes typically will not meet every day.  A class will meet two or three times per week, and each time, instructors will usually assign homework.  An average course load is about five classes or 15 credit hours, so I can expect plenty of homework — papers, reading, studying, math problems, projects — each night.  P.S., there are no “study halls” in college.  It’s up to me to set aside enough time in my week to get everything done.  Like most students, I balance work, campus organizations and a full course load, so if I didn’t manage my time carefully, it would be very easy to fall behind.

You can’t control everything.  I probably sound like I’m contradicting myself.  I’ve told you to take responsibility for your success and budget your time.  You absolutely should.  Here’s something that you should also keep in mind, however: some things in college are beyond your control.  In high school, I spent a lot of time fantasizing about and planning out all of the finer details of my life.  There is nothing wrong with planning, and in many areas of college, it really helps to develop a good plan.  You should be flexible; however, and understand that college can be unpredictable.  Before I got here, I browsed through the online schedule of classes and picked out the decidedly perfect schedule.  By the time I registered, none of those classes were still open.  I thought, wait a second … I never had this kind of trouble getting into the classes I wanted in high school.  What gives?  With thousands of other students competing for the residence hall you want or the perfect class schedule you devised, you will face occasional disappointments.  They are inescapable.  I feel confident promising you that you will still make good memories in a different residence hall, and despite his or her reputation on RateMyProfessors, the instructor you get will not be insufferable.  Take online ratings with a grain of salt, by the way, because the students who post bitter, insulting ratings are usually the ones who aren’t satisfied with their grades in the class (maybe they lacked self-responsibility and time management skills).  If you do not get the residence hall you requested, the job you applied for, the scholarship you applied for, or the nothing-before-noon class schedule you picked out, take a deep breath and trust that your college experience will still be awesome.

I have had to learn plenty of other lessons the hard way since I’ve been in college (prime studying time, the usefulness of the Learning Commons tutoring center, why to adhere to parking policies at all times), but I won’t make you suffer through the complete list.  If your high school offers a class or workshop on preparing for college, consider taking it, and definitely discuss the transition to college with your teachers and school counselors.  They can be excellent resources, and they probably have some interesting stories to share from their own college days.  Good luck!

You’ve almost made it! The end of the semester is near. Hang on!


2012
04.15

Uh.  WOW.  These last two weeks are totally killer.  Last week, I got assigned four, count them, four major projects. (>200 points).  So, needless to say, I have been working like crazy.  Actually, I just ordered my organic chemistry study guide for my final, too.  Isn’t my life totally thrilling?

Mostly, I wanted to talk about how I have noticed my work ethics change … or not change. Now, I have always had an abnormally high work ethic.  But I notice that I am holding myself more accountable now that we are in the end of the semester and I think it is because I am trying my hardest to maintain the decent grades that I have gotten throughout the semester.  While it may appear the work ethic has changed, maybe it hasn’t…. I think the amount of work has just increased.  So, my next question, why is it that the work we have always appears to double toward the end of the semester?

This is not going to be a rant about how college students should get to relax and blah blah.  We are in college, college is hard, college is a lot of work so I find it pointless to complain about such things.   Mostly, I want to know what makes the last couple of weeks of the semester the most crucial?  Why does the work seem pile up as high as Mount Everest? And why do I wish I was already done?!

I guess these are questions that we really can’t get an answer to.  I mean we can assume that maybe the end of the semester is your final test or that the professor forgot to assign assignments during the earlier parts of the semester.

Personally, I think it would be best to just take it in stride.  WE ARE SO CLOSE.  So don’t throw all of the work that you have already done this semester out the window.  You can do it! You just have to motivate yourself and remind yourself that while these may be the greatest four years (or five…) of your life, they will surely be the fastest and pass you by within the blink of an eye.

Personally, I am so excited to be nearly done. Just think … I may conquer organic chemistry. Then it’s summer time.  No, I won’t be going home, but I will have my BG home and BG family to make sure I stay sane.   Keep it up, Falcons.  We are almost through another year.  Stay classy BG!

What I wish I had done … joined a fraternity


2012
04.11

I cannot believe it is already April! There are only two more weeks of classes, and one week of finals until summer vacation officially begins!

Just a few months ago I was traveling the country visiting national parks.  Now, I am about to finish my junior year?!  Time goes by before you know it.  I am sure most of you hear that college is one of the best times of your life and that you should take advantage of it.  Well, I am.

Since I started college I have had a few regrets.  I wish I would have joined a social Greek Organization.  I am currently in Alpha Phi Omega, which is a co-ed service fraternity, but it has a different feel from a social fraternity.  I am thankful though I did get involved with Alpha Phi Omega.  I recently was not elected onto our executive board.  Instead of mopping around and complaining about how much my life sucks, I decided to suck it up.  Everything happens for a reason.  Now, I am running for a pledge educator position, which I have wanted since I joined in the Fall of 2010.

Dance Marathon has inspired me to do more with that organization.  I had the opportunity to apply to be on steering.  Steering is the 20 or so individuals who plan Dance Marathon.  Part of me was telling me not to because I have always wanted to be a morale captain.  So, I didn’t turn in my steering application and am going to attempt to be a morale captain in the fall.  I hope that all goes well and I get it.  If not, then I’ll continue my involvement with Dance Marathon.

In other good news, I received ANOTHER scholarship.  Currently, I have at least $8,200 for next school year.  The most recent one I got did not tell me how much, so I have to wait and see.  Tuition costs about $10,000, which means I only have $1,800 more to go!! Scholarships are EVERYWHERE.  Apply, apply, apply.  If you don’t apply, you cannot win.  Simple as that.

My advice to all of you: Do what you want.  If you want to start an organization about preventing bullying, then do it.  If you want to change your major and be on the five-year plan like me, then do it.  Don’t spend these amazing four (in my case five) years of your life regretting things.  Take advantage of everything around you and enjoy BGSU!  I know I have.

Until next time BG,

Mike


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