Interracial dating is an issue of concern many Americans have had forever. Some have become open to it, while others will never come to an understanding or accordance to it. Interracial dating is expanding, and in fact, most of the population is consisted of biracial individuals.

“The majority of the babies being brought forth in our society are biracial, said Thelma Brown, 51.
This statement raises a lot of questions, but it’s clear the multiracial population has increased in our society. This also shows that in today’s society people are more open to dating outside their race.

These days seeing interracial couples promotes curiosity within our youth connection. Many youth sought to see that dating outside their race is something they want to experiment. They want to try something new in their dating experiences for many different reasons.

“I’ve always dated someone that was of the same race as me. I would like to date someone with a different nationality because I want something new,” said Oliver Ward, a third-year college student.

Some even believe that interracial couples tend to last longer than same-raced couples. However, interracial dating most discussed seems to be about white and black couples. We hear the word interracial, and we immediately think black and white. The main reason for this is because of the history our society has dealing with blacks and whites. When this occurs, it regenerates our society to believe that we really do live in a “black and white” world.

People who disagree with interracial dating tend to ignore a couple’s feelings for each other. People are finding people with common interests and common perspectives and are putting race aside, and that’s where older generations are failing to realize. Interracial couples take race outside the box and look at the attraction and love that’s there between the two.

“I don’t see anything wrong with interracial dating. I don’t look at race as a factor, so I’m not against it,” said Courtney Wheaton, a 21-year-old college student.

Ultimately, regardless of the views that one has been surrounded by, finding love isn’t about race. It’s about true feelings and the passion that lyes within. Nevertheless, interracial couples shouldn’t be defined as white or black, as if this practice only exists amongst the black and white community.

Interracial dating can be a rewarding and growing experience by learning more about another culture each day. Challenges with this issue will undergo in majority of interracial couples, but this shouldn’t be the factor into which the relationship ends. If anything, it should be the factor that makes their relationship stronger, and therefore can help establish that love can conquer through all battles.

Below is a documentary on interracial dating. Different interracial couples speak about:

Most of the couples are young, but there are a few older ones who explain their views as well. In addition, viewers should watch this documentary because it shows the reality of what interracial dating is like, and the struggles those couple face. It’s interesting to observe their emotions and attitudes about the whole situation.

Sometimes we often need motivational speeches, small talk, or even just a sentence or two that will give us a sense of awakening to get us through one of the most downhearted moments. In fact, it’s likely that every individual have experimented with this practice. We can’t always figure out emotional issues on our own. Being comforted by someone’s words with the intention to help encourage someone, can really strengthened someone’s emotions in some way.

I’ve come across a middle-aged female who loves to help inspire people who’s going through relationship issues. Her name is Sophie and she really helps people get back on their toes. She also motivates them to not lose faith in themselves. Here’s what young adult, Simaia told Sophie.

“Oh my gosh girl you are so helping me with my breakup! I’m happy to be single because of the motivation from you.”

Here are some quotes from Sophie that you may all enjoy, and could be helpful.

“Ladies: missing someone is not an indication that you need to be with them.”

“Don’t let your Ex ruin your future relationships. Your Ex should only serve as the motivation needed to find something better.”

“Being single is far more better than being miserable within a relationship. Happiness is therapeutic.”

“People often lie and tell you what you want to hear; that’s how you end up falling with someone you don’t even know.”

“The wrong relationship will have you feeling more alone than when you were single.”

“Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.”

“The best love is the one that makes you a better person, without changing you into someone other than yourself.”

“Loving someone and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”

“Sometimes the person you fall for isn’t ready to catch you.”

“Guys: if you still carry her bags, open the door for her, tell her that she’s beautiful, and show her respect; you’re a REAL MAN.”

“There are billions of women/men out there, but the key is to find the one that makes all the rest disappear.”

“Problem with guys: they make u believe they love u when they dont. Problem with girls: they make u believe they dont love u when they do.”

“A man truly loves you when missing you is his hobby, caring for you is his job, making you happy is his duty, and loving you is his life.”

Being in a dating relationship or married is something that may sound simplistic, but anyone who has experienced this knows it’s hard work, and it’s a working process. Each day we may learn something new about our dating partners and so new issues or problems are likely to occur. Some things we might not always like what we find out, but keeping a sense of composure is essential. This will help fight through and help keep the on-going relationship. While these facts are true, it’s much difficult for young adults to follow these guidelines and achieve the result of keeping that passion (relationship) alive.

These days we have to ask ourselves, why is dating so difficult? In this time period, we see that most dating relationships barely even last a year. Some don’t even make it past 4 months. So what’s the reasoning for this? I believe the number one answer to this is simply the change in society and the roles that it plays. Times were different from when our parents were growing up. Economic hardship wasn’t nearly an issue, society values were less complex, and things were less expected from one another. If parents were to give their children advice on dating, it might actually be more harmful than expected. Author, Neal Talbot of the article “Why Dating Became Difficult” reveals, “Times were simpler, choices fewer and expectations lower, in decades past. Most parents haven’t adjusted to today’s views on dating. What used to be considered ‘sweet’ is now considered ‘stalking.’ What used to earn a wedding ring, now isn’t enough to convince someone to pick up the phone.”

In addition, young adults often read books, find online articles, and get advice from “experts” to find a resolution on making relationships last. Usually these sources are older individuals who share their own experiences to help advise young adults. But will these sources be the ones to solve this issue for young adults given the rapidly changing society we live in? These changes have dramatically impacted young adults’ dating experiences and many have failed to come to see this realization.

Sometimes we grow and all we want is to just be in a relationship; especially when we get old enough to believe things could get serious between two partners. When people get in their early 20’s that’s when they start to believe in that idea. High-schoolers don’t necessarily build into this affect since they know they are young and will eventually part different ways when high school comes to an end. In the article, “He Said/She Said: All About College Dating” the author says, “dating in college is a whole different ball game than dating in high school. For me dating in high school was more of “Oh, this guy is really cool.” In college, it’s more of “Oh this guy is really cool, we work well together, we have similar ideas, the same values and it could work out.” It’s more serious because I have a better grasp of who I am and what I need in a relationship” (article here: he-said-she-said-college-dating-rules). It’s reasonable to say this now since we are in a new age. If this were the 70’s, this whole idea would not be insinuated. Because of changes in time, the way society plays its roles has also changed.

College is a time where once dating occurs, he/she engages in the idea that they will be lifetime partners. Individuals get into these relationships but always fail to ask themselves, “What will happen after undergrad?” Most times college couples will be entering in different occupations and will set out to move to cities where it will best fit their career alternatives. Not all partners will match up to live in the same city after undergrad. Compromising on this issue is complex, and can result in a relationship breakup. One of the reasons why is because these days people are choosing their careers over their partners. So why not just wait to find your potential “wife” or husband” after undergrad? At least by then individuals will hopefully be in grad school or working in their career, giving a better chance to be with someone without worrying about moving afar. Sometimes the city where one is in graduate school or working in their career, that’s the city where they will live for quite sometime.

Here is an interview with college student, Dave Fogle, on his view about dating relationships. He is one of my closest guy friends that I know who’s been in a relationship the longest, so I chose to interview him. He was in a relationship for about 5 years, so I concluded that he would share great advice. Also, I chose to interview a male because I feel women are the typical ones who speak about this issue. Viewers should read this because he explains his opinion on the most important value in a relationship, the different expectations male and females have in a relationship, and how he believes trust is the most important element in a relationship. My Movie

The decision to talk with friends about your personal relationship can be either a good or bad choice. There will be times when you’re in a relationship and feel the need to talk with a close friend about whatever situation; even if it’s good or bad. It’s natural to want to talk with friends, because those are the ones who we believe are our support system. Usually when individuals decide to share relationship discussions amongst friends, their friendship begins to fall apart. Jealousy is not always the factor to which the friendship falls a part. The article “When Friends Get Jealous” by eHarmony staff confirms, “What you mistake for jealousy of a new relationship could actually be a very good friend not wanting to rain on your delusional parade of being with someone who clearly is not right for you.” Such situations happens everyday, and people don’t know how to handle it.

It’s smart to communicate your feelings to your partner no matter the circumstance. Most things should stay between the two of you. If when in need to tell a friend, it’s best to say less than more until you’re certain that you want a particular discussion to be revealed. Sometimes having a personal counselor to spill out your problems is a great thing to do as well. Here’s what eHarmony had to say about the benefits of having a counselor.

“That’s the only way to be certain that your words won’t come back to haunt you if you make the mistake of sharing something that in hindsight shouldn’t have been shared,” explains eHarmony.

Here’s a short audio file on John Laney’s two keys to a great relationship. He’s from Houston, Texas and is also a teacher who teaches emotional, intelligent relationship courses. He also has a variety of books that speaks upon relationship advice and gives seminars. In this audio John Laney shares relationship intelligence that anyone could put in their life today. He will talk about how couples need to continue to “play” or have date nights and have fun throughout the course of their relationship. He believes the energy that was present when first dating should remain over time. Also, he explains how a couple deals with conflict is the determining factor on how long a relationship will last. He explains in detail about how this works with positive and negative ways to deal with conflicts.

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Here are a few map locations of resources where you can learn more about relationships. The map locations includes T.V shows, a library, counseling center, and more. These resources are easy ways that can inspire people around the world.

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One of the challenges today in young relationships seems to be about choosing between their career and their significant other. Some have a hard time understanding this situation, but others are in fact aware of this issue and have total respect for those more dedicated toward their career. During this time period I believe most can agree to the fact that we are now living during economic hard times. In response, individuals will take time to focus on their careers rather than their loved one to make way for a successful future. However, a decision such as this sometimes can cause a breakup in a relationship. When and if this does happen, believe that he/she did not earn your worth.

The decision for someone to choose their career over their significant other is something anyone should respect and support them in any way possible. Dave Bohl, author of his article “Choosing a Career Over Love” announces, “Careers and love fulfill us in different but important ways. Having a solid career gives us a sense of accomplishment and self worth, aside from the practicalities of paying the bills. Many people develop their entire identity based upon what they do, elevating their career to a level of great importance in their lives.” In the hard times that were living in this is the attitude to have, and other things such as relationships will eventually fall into its place. It’s important to continue dreams and goals that anyone wants to pursue without letting anyone interfere.

For more information check out this link: choosing-a-career-over-love

Just when you thought there was no hope left in finding a person of good quality that gives you loyalty, trust, and love at all times (no exceptions) well, there is hope. For that reason, it’s time for a change of thought. Should I reassure that there are good men and women out there that do exist? I think so. There’s someone out there for everyone. As cliché as that sounds, those very words are nothing but truth.

Understanding the journey through a relationship is important. This includes knowing the roles and ups and downs that comes within. I’m certain you have to go through a storm before you can tell a story. I’m in no way, shape, or form of giving advice or sharing stories of my own on relationships when I haven’t been through a real one. Instead, I share the stories from the experienced and the wise because they give me a sense of hope and inspiration. The couple that defines real true love is definitely the Obamas.

Michelle and Barack Obama have been married since 1992, and share two beautiful daughters, Malia and Sasha. When televised, it’s apparent that anyone can see how much love exists between the two based on their mannerisms toward each other.

“Barack and his wife are special individuals, and they’re even more special when seeing them together on television. They have the type of love that anyone would cherish. I know their marriage isn’t perfect because there’s no such thing as a perfect marriage, but they are a couple that exemplifies what a great marriage is,” said Leanne Williams, a 20-year-old single mom.

Many young adults, like Williams, who dream of having a lasting relationship look up to the Obamas.

When any couple can possess such quality in a relationship, it gives reassurance that long lasting relationships are possible, especially toward the black community.

“Everytime I see Barack and his wife I smile. It’s just something about them two that makes me happy. It’s rare to see black couples in a lasting relationship, so they inspire me. They have something that I would love to have, and that’s simply a forever happy marriage,” said James Cheffen, a senior at Bowling Green State University.

It’s powerful for the African-American community to see couples such as the Obamas because they truly set an example. It gives that community hope, inspiration, and confidence to believe African-Americans can emulate the obamas’ example of relationship success.

Patience is a virtue into finding a good relationship. However, through all the experiences, you will eventually learn why relationships don’t last. A middle-age friend of mines, Sophie Teri, loves to inspire others because of her past experiences. She was able to share her thoughts on why relationships don’t last.

“Relationships don’t last because people don’t understand the true meaning of love, which is Learning tO Value Each other,” said Sophie Teri. “They also don’t last because they don’t start off as friendships. Sometimes in a relationship, the biggest enemy isn’t trust or even understand, but love itself. Find someone who not only pleases the eyes, but someone who will never fail to please the heart.”

I’m about encouragement, enlightening others to feel a sense of relief that it’s not over and that there is no such thing as not being capable of obtaining a lasting relationship. Real, healthy, and long-lived relationships take time and hard work. It’s important to not give up along the way and knowing that there is an opportunity for relationship success. This indeed is a beautiful thing.

The slide show illustrates how things in a relationship build throughout time. We see that college students (particularly guys) give cute stuffed animals as an appreciation gift. At the next stage, couples go on more expensive date nights, like going to professional sporting events. The final stage then is the day she receives an engagement ring.

Not all women and men have experienced an unhealthy relationship, but if so, most times they don’t realize early signs of an unhealthy relationship that they encounter. The way a couple communicates with each other is usually the first sign that approaches toward an unhealthy relationship. When there’s a disagreement about a certain issue, there are ways around to handle the situation in an appropriate manner. Let’s just start off by saying raising voices at one another is not a way in which to deal with dissimilarities. If you haven’t already, check out the video, “Dealing with Arguments” on this page for more details.

Believe it or not, if one finds themselves only hanging around their significant other, then they are engaging into one of the early signs of an unhealthy relationship. Males and females should be able to hang out with their guy or girl friends whenever they want. If not, then this shows further evidence that he/she is restricting them from hanging out with certain people. This then leads to a no support system besides him/her and ultimately leads to depression. Certainly these issues can all lead to a mental, verbal, physical, and an emotional state of abuse. One girl was able to open up and share her thoughts.

“I realized my relationship was unhealthy when I realized that I didn’t know who I was anymore and that it wasn’t right to be crying almost every day. 1 year of that, but it’s finally over.”

There are ways to gain a healthy relationship. This can be accomplished by obtaining a balanced relationship, establishing effective communication, having a complete understanding of each other, and showing how you can be independent.

Check out the link to read more on this topic :healthy_relationship.html

So what is it that females really expect or want from a guy? Well, surely females want qualities in a guy where they know they will be treated fairly. So, here are some important common “top 5” qualities a female wants in their guy.

1) Honesty– Honesty is important because it’s usually the first that comes into play when even considering someone to date. Think about it. Usually the first action is to get to know someone. Telling the truth will only lead things off to a great start. Other wise, she most likely will find out the truth behind the lies, and things will end right when you “thought” they were headed in the right direction.
2) Respect– Respect comes a long ways. We all know what respect consists of so do we really need to have an explanation here?
3) Consistency– Females want guys to be consistent with whatever  it was that impressed them when first getting to know each other. Going along with the same energy throughout a relationship helps females to feel more secure.
4) Time-Females do want quality time with their boyfriends. However, it’s best not to spend too much time with each other day in and day out. Being around each other can cause issues in the long run, so try and create a good “balance” of quality time.
5) Hard working– What female doesn’t want a hard working man? However, ladies this does not mean smooch and become lazy yourself. Be just as hardworking as he is. Believe it or not hard workers can make a dynamite couple.

For more information, check out this link: 5-qualities-of-successful-relationships

Video tip on arguments:
This video clip will explain how to approach or deal with argumentative conversations amongst your significant other to prevent a damaging relationship.

If you are reading this then it’s apparent you experienced or want to experience a dating relationship. Or perhaps it’s just an interesting topic to read upon about. Sometimes we read topics that capture our interests because those topics correlate to our lives. Well, let’s cut to the chase. This is a blog that most of you will enjoy. It will discuss many different subtopics on relationships and questions that address why relationships seem to fail, or what it is that a real man or women want from each other. Money, family and friends, interracial dating, and much more are to be presented. Also, visitors can leave comments and initiate discussions on whatever they desire. Visitors are also encouraged to raise questions, so that it keeps the blog interesting. With questions and answers can also bring about hot debates. Who doesn’t like to argue for what they may stand up or not stand up for?

In addition, viewers can expect to see multimedia on the site. This means they are able to watch videos, view pictures, and maps that are related to “Relationship Talk” topics. This blog is suppose to be an interesting read and get viewers interacting amongst each other by responses to different comments on blog posts.However, I will not give advice on making relationships work because I’m no expert. The blog is more so a discussion, which is based on the topics that I listed above. So, Stay tuned for more hot topics to be discussed. Ladies and gents, welcome to Relationship Talk.