What to do in a difficult situation
One of the readings from this week addresses the subject of what to do when things go wrong. A lot of people, including myself, sometimes get frustrated and just want to give up on the project (or whatever has gone wrong). The author recommends “applying the rough guide,” which can help to handle difficult situations.
• Calm Down – “Nothing makes a situation worse than basing your actions on fear, anger or frustration.” How true is this?! Things always seem worse at first and it never helps to get angry before seeing if it can be fixed. (I need to keep reminding myself of this!) Your emotions will influence your thinking and behavior, sometimes causing you to do things you wouldn’t normally do. Be patient, keep breathing, and pay attention!
• Evaluate the problem in relation to the project – Make sure you frame the problem to the right emotional and intellectual scale. Ask a lot of questions and get people to think instead of react. Make sure you truly have an understanding of the problem and the impact it has. Once you do this, then you should prioritize: emergency (now!), big concern (today), minor concern (this or next week), bogus (never).
• Calm down again – Now that you really know what the problem is and how it can/can’t be fixed, you’re probably going to get upset again! Find a way to safely express your emotions. You can do this by: screaming at the top of your lungs, workout, or talk to a friend. Once you’ve calmed down go ahead back to the problem and get it figured out!
• Get the right people in the room – Identify who all is most responsible, knowledgeable, and useful and get them to work together. Let them know what the problem is and any other information you might have regarding the situation and then get out of their way so that they can get to work!
• Explore Alternatives – After you answer any questions and clarify the situation, next you can figure out what your options are. This could involve having to do research – if there’s too much of it to do on your own then go ahead and delegate some to another person.
• Make the simplest plan – Weigh the options, pick the best choice, and make a simple plan. Even if it’s not in your favor or what you want to do, you need to pick the best available choice.
• Execute – Plan and simple – make it happen! If new problems arise then start over at step 1 and get it figured out.
• Debrief – Look over everything you have done and see what you did right and what you did wrong. Ask yourself, “what can I do next time to avoid this?” Learn from your mistakes!
Hopefully this will help you when a difficult situation arises and that it will teach you how to easily get out of another difficult situation.